Wake up!

Hello world :)

How are you doing on this lovely day? It's cold in Michigan but still pretty good. Okay people, each day that you wake up should be a day to finish what you've started or start anew. Life is about moving forward and not looking back. Find the confidence to wake up every day and persue what you love. If that love doesnt work out, find a new love! Always move forward! Don't spend your days moaning of things you can't change and wishing you could go back in time and change the past, life gives no take backs but it gives you a chance to start over.
You might be going through a hard time and reading this might be annoying to you, I get that, but you gotta keep reading to give yourself some hope. I've been there, I know what it's like to just throw in the towel and quit because you feel like nothing is really working in your life. You wonder why you wake up each day, pain just seems to be waiting on you to open your eyes, I've been there. It's hard to see hope when your vision is blurred, in this time, it's okay to cry.....

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL :)

Heart to Heart

Hello World :) 

Today is a good day to make a turn around. In life, we wait for a certain thing to happen before we a can make a change. Eventful change is a good name to call it. Waiting for an event to occur that you believe will cause a ripple effect and lead to the rest of the parts of your life to follow through. I've waited forever for that to happen. Most times we wait for the new year, which is definitely a perfect way to do it but is it really? Are you going to keep letting yourself go through what you're going through until the first? Really bold you are. Change starts in the heart, decide in your heart and that will in turn convince your mind to follow. I'm no psychologist but i believe that's how it works, at least for me anyways. You can decide to make a change right now, but it keep in mind, it might be a difficult process but isn't everything?

Okay, so yesterday i had a heart to heart with a close friend and it opened my mind to the realization that, i am not alone and neither are you. Recently, i had been having these crazy thoughts and for some reason, i couldn't find the courage to share them with anyone because i figured they might look at me and go like " Whhatttttt?" So i decided to keep my thoughts to myself. Then yesterday, my friend came up to me and we just started talking about our current fears, hopes, and just generally everything that is going on in our lives and that's when it hit me, i'm not alone. For a while, it seemed like everyone had it all together and their lives were just peachy but when my friend and i sat down, i realised we had the same mixed emotions. It is true what they, "a problem shared, is a problem half solved." 

You maybe feeling a little lost right now and nothing maybe going right at all in your life but i want you to know, you're not alone. No matter how redundant this may sound, its really true. You have to make the first step and talk to someone about what you're going through, keeping the thoughts to yourself is no good way to live, trust me. Like me, the person you decide to share your thoughts to, might be going through or thinking the exact same things you are. Its very relieving to know that you're not the only person who thinks they're going insane or drained by life. You'll feel a lot better afterwards. Don't ignore the feelings and thoughts and tell yourself they'll go away, they won't. You're just saving them for a later date. Try it out, share  your thoughts and feelings, it is definitely relieving. (rhymed lol)

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL :)

Compromise

Hello world :)
How have you been the passed couple of weeks? All good I hope :D I know I know,  I've missed a couple of weeks but I'm here now! Hehe, I figured a good comeback would be talking about compromise.

Most of us are probably familiar with this word because even though we hate to admit it, we compromise alot. We convince ourselves that we'll only do it one time and from then on it turns out to be a habit. Compromise is basically settling, when you compromise, you settle or agree to something you don't want to do. Now, what does this have to do with beauty?

Being beautiful should always start from the inside and flow through to the outside. How you feel on the inside is a major contribution towards how your outward appearance will be portrayed.  

Beauty is all about accepting who you are and all that you are. That means flaws and all. Lately, there is this trend that has been going around which i'm not really feeling. Weight loss. There are a lot of people that i used to know back in the day that have lost so much weight its unbelievable. Girls are dropping dress sizes like its nothing. They look great and all but some are just so small its scary. Celebrities are obviously on this train too. I almost got on it as well, but that was until i realized i wouldn't be doing it for the right reasons.  I'd be doing it because everyone else is doing it. Compromising to the standards currently being set. Don't get me wrong, their is a lot of good in losing weight, you become healthy and all those good things. But what i'd hate for you to do, is fall into the trap of doing something that you didn't want to do but did anyway. Don't lose weight just because the rest of the world is doing it. You don't have to, you have a choice, do it if you know it will make you happy and more confident. Because if you decide to drop to a size 2, you will be the one looking at you in the mirror everyday.

I used to be smaller than i am right now. Everyone thought i was just the right size, i didn't think so. I didn't feel comfortable in that size, the strange thing was, i didn't really like my body. I knew the clothes that fit me wear a medium or large but my mind couldn't settle with those sizes. But after i gained a few pounds, i finally accepted my body. Most of the people thought i had become fat, and they stay think i am fat but that's them. I don't see myself as fat, i see myself as just the right size. I like me more now that i did back then. I've accepted that i'm a plus size. I'm not saying don't work out or eat and blow up, i'm saying if you think losing weight will make you love yourself, then do it! I've set a weight that i don't want to cross over and every time i see myself going out of control, i check my eating habits and cut down till i'm in the range i want. Its all up to you and how you want to feel about yourself. Stand your ground, you will not be swayed. Don't compromise. 

Love your body, love yourself. 

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL

:)

Love your body

Hello World :)

How are you doing this lovely day? I am doing great, thanks for asking :) Today we will talk about loving your body.

Do you love your body? Do you love the place where you live? There's a difference between loving your body and accepting it. This sounds familiar right? I hate to admit it but I'm still struggling with loving mine. Sometimes you don't notice it, you take showers, brush your teeth and what not but that doesn't mean you love it. You can care for something and not love it. You have to love your body, accept it. This sounds repetitive but if it will make it sink in then so be it.

Loving your body allows you to mentally accept the real you, the body you live in. Most times i feel like running from my body, or wishing for some sort of separation between my body and me. I had told myself i would lose weight a billion times and every time it got to a week, i just gave up. I saw the change but just didn't bother with it any more. Even though weight loss requires discipline, i feel like loving it first can help you mentally adjust to the new body you'd get after the hardwork. Mentality is key here people, accept your body and love it. Don't compare your body to someone else's, you'll never be that person. Do you put in the extra effort and time to groom yourself put on clothes that extenuate your body, flaunts all of you. Once in a while, you can go the extra mile and treat yourself to a night out in your favorite outfit, with a touch of confidence and you'll notice how beautiful you look and feel. It shouldn't end on one night, remind yourself that you are beautiful each day, you'll simply be stating the obvious ;)

Do something for me

Do something for me
Close your eyes
Take a breath
Relax your mind
Breathe slow
Count to 7 with your eyes closed
Slow your heart beat
Slow it down to the sound of a clock
Breathe...
Now, open your eyes
Where are you standing?
What do you see?
If you can still see the world hurting, you're not looking hard enough
Close your eyes
Count to 10
Imagine yourself tall standing
You can see everything from where you stand
Now, think of the one place you'd love to be right now
You're there
Notice your surroundings
See the smiles, frowns and the straight faces walking passed you
What would you like to be doing?
Do it
Do you see yourself smiling while you do it?
Good, notice your surrounding
Smile
Open your eyes
You've seen it
You've done it
So why are you here?
Why are you on this ledge?

Happy Easter! Acceptance and Love

Hello world :)

Today Christians celebrate the resurrection of Jesus Christ, it is but a happy day! While the rest of the world probably parties or goes on an egg hunt. This is the perfect day to talk about life and acceptance.

Over the passed couple of weeks, I have said "my condolences" to my friends more than I care to...it's just but a reminder that life is timed, your life and mine runs on an hour glass...Once the sand (our time on earth) is up, so are we. "Earth is now, heaven is forever. " That's a topic for another day.

In relation to beauty, it comes down to one thing, acceptance. Do you accept yourself the way you are? Using another Bible analogy, Matthew 22 Jesus was asked a question in regards to what the greatest commandment was...

37 "Jesus replied, 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.' 38 This is the greatest and the most important commandment. 39 The second most important commandment is like it: 'Love your neighbor as you love yourself. ' 40 The Whole Law of Moses and the teachings of the prophets depend on these two commandments."

It must be pretty important if the law of Moses depends on these two commands. Besides loving God first, it cannot be stressed enough that you love yourself just as much as you love the person next to you. Even if you're not Christian,  you must love yourself. That's where it pretty much all starts, the self esteem,  confidence, "Swag", it all starts with loving who you are. Accept yourself the way you are before making any changes. Yes, I know yesterday we talked about change but before the change can occur, it's important to accept the way you are now. Most people would disagree with me but this is my take on it, it's what works for me.

It took me a while to get to the place I am now, it took a few tears and all. Over the years, I looked at myself and thought I was "fat", yes we are talking about this. Initially, I used to wear a size M/L but in my mind, I was a 3X. It sounds ridiculous right? Proof? I went shopping with my aunt one time, I headed straight for the plus section, my aunt called me out and wondered what I was doing in that section and I told her I was looking for clothes. She laughed at me and told me I was in the wrong section. It's very difficult to make changes to things you don't accept; it requires mental adjustment to seeing what the mirror reflects and accepting it.

I can't stress this enough, accept yourself the way you are and love yourself for being who you are. If it means staring at yourself for hours till it sinks in, then do it. God makes no mistakes, so no, you're not a mistake. Stop the comparison syndrome, there's only one you and YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

:)

Change

Hello world :)

Yesterday I introduced my topic and all, so today we'll get started. Yeah! Let's talk about change today.

A few weeks ago, I decided to cut my hair. I had been talking about it for a long time but never actually got round to doing it. I had braids in, twists to be specific, anyone that knows anything about these kind of braids knows they look so good but so painful to get done. Anyway, the night before the big shave, I took out the braids and slept. That night, I had  a dream that I was contemplating shaving my head. When I woke, I got a scissors and cut it off.

Why did I explain the story behind shaving my head? I want you to understand something, I had thought about it a couple of times but I was to chicken to actually do it. Reason being, I thought I would look hideous and like a guy. Then I realized that wasn't a good excuse, so to get myself to shave it off, I cut it with a scissors which left me with no choice but to actually go to the salon and shave the rest of it.

After cutting it,I posted a pic on Facebook and one of my acquaintances said I looked like a little boy, others said I looked good.The good comments made me feel good and the ones I didn't want to hear made me feel like I made a mistake. There was no turning back so I had to adjust to seeing myself without hair and had to accept myself that way. Which was the real reason for doing so. For so long I felt like I was hiding behind something and not being true to myself, I needed to make a change and so I did.

I cut my hair because I wanted to see if I still looked beautiful, with or without my hair. I realized that,  my beauty isn't defined necessarily by my hair but by me. Hair just accentuates my face but my true beauty is on the inside, and so is yours. This was a big step for me, I'm still adjusting to it but I realized I'm more confident now.  There's nothing to hide behind anymore,  my face is out in the open now and hopefully my true beauty will shine through.

Cutting my hair was probably too drastic but if there's something you've been thinking about doing that you think will boost your confidence,  do it. It can be something you want to get rid of on your body or something you want to add on. The point of all this is to love your self, love your body. Not everyone will agree with it but it's time you did something for you and not mind what other people think. One my friends called me up yesterday and he laughed at my new cut and that made me feel... bad. Sound like a child huh lol it hurt me a little but I'm not here to please him or anyone else. Do this for you, stop waiting for the "perfect time" to make a change and just do it. 'Been there, done that, not going back' is better than,  'I wish I had done that.' Don't mind what others say, if it's negative talk that is, being afraid won't make people talk less. People are never satisfied anyway, do this for you.  "Those that mind don't matter, those that matter don't mind."

:)

Beauty Is Only Skin Deep

Hello World! :)

This is my very first Blog, isn't that exciting! I know it is :p For my very first blog, i wanted to address what my blogs will mostly be about, Beauty. Its mostly directed towards girls, women in general but men are more than welcome to join in. 

There are a number of topics out there that would be appropriate to talk about but i choose to focus on beauty because it is something that i am currently dealing with. You see, over the number of years that i have lived on this earth, beauty has been a confusing and yet daunting topic i can never seem to figure out. I decided on the title "Beauty Is Only Skin Deep" because it is. For most women accepting there beauty is usually a struggle and i can most definitely attest to that. I figured, if i'm still struggling with this topic, i bet i'm not the only. So why not share my journey with the world and hope my findings can help someone else. Plus it will probably make them feel less crazy, that happens a lot actually lol 

I hope you will join me on this journey to figure out what life and beauty is like. If you find my findings to be something you can relate to, please feel free to share the information with someone who needs to hear it. My goal is to help at least one person as i help myself. 

 :)