Love your body

Hello World :)

How are you doing this lovely day? I am doing great, thanks for asking :) Today we will talk about loving your body.

Do you love your body? Do you love the place where you live? There's a difference between loving your body and accepting it. This sounds familiar right? I hate to admit it but I'm still struggling with loving mine. Sometimes you don't notice it, you take showers, brush your teeth and what not but that doesn't mean you love it. You can care for something and not love it. You have to love your body, accept it. This sounds repetitive but if it will make it sink in then so be it.

Loving your body allows you to mentally accept the real you, the body you live in. Most times i feel like running from my body, or wishing for some sort of separation between my body and me. I had told myself i would lose weight a billion times and every time it got to a week, i just gave up. I saw the change but just didn't bother with it any more. Even though weight loss requires discipline, i feel like loving it first can help you mentally adjust to the new body you'd get after the hardwork. Mentality is key here people, accept your body and love it. Don't compare your body to someone else's, you'll never be that person. Do you put in the extra effort and time to groom yourself put on clothes that extenuate your body, flaunts all of you. Once in a while, you can go the extra mile and treat yourself to a night out in your favorite outfit, with a touch of confidence and you'll notice how beautiful you look and feel. It shouldn't end on one night, remind yourself that you are beautiful each day, you'll simply be stating the obvious ;)

Do something for me

Do something for me
Close your eyes
Take a breath
Relax your mind
Breathe slow
Count to 7 with your eyes closed
Slow your heart beat
Slow it down to the sound of a clock
Breathe...
Now, open your eyes
Where are you standing?
What do you see?
If you can still see the world hurting, you're not looking hard enough
Close your eyes
Count to 10
Imagine yourself tall standing
You can see everything from where you stand
Now, think of the one place you'd love to be right now
You're there
Notice your surroundings
See the smiles, frowns and the straight faces walking passed you
What would you like to be doing?
Do it
Do you see yourself smiling while you do it?
Good, notice your surrounding
Smile
Open your eyes
You've seen it
You've done it
So why are you here?
Why are you on this ledge?

Happy Easter! Acceptance and Love

Hello world :)

Today Christians celebrate the resurrection of Jesus Christ, it is but a happy day! While the rest of the world probably parties or goes on an egg hunt. This is the perfect day to talk about life and acceptance.

Over the passed couple of weeks, I have said "my condolences" to my friends more than I care to...it's just but a reminder that life is timed, your life and mine runs on an hour glass...Once the sand (our time on earth) is up, so are we. "Earth is now, heaven is forever. " That's a topic for another day.

In relation to beauty, it comes down to one thing, acceptance. Do you accept yourself the way you are? Using another Bible analogy, Matthew 22 Jesus was asked a question in regards to what the greatest commandment was...

37 "Jesus replied, 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.' 38 This is the greatest and the most important commandment. 39 The second most important commandment is like it: 'Love your neighbor as you love yourself. ' 40 The Whole Law of Moses and the teachings of the prophets depend on these two commandments."

It must be pretty important if the law of Moses depends on these two commands. Besides loving God first, it cannot be stressed enough that you love yourself just as much as you love the person next to you. Even if you're not Christian,  you must love yourself. That's where it pretty much all starts, the self esteem,  confidence, "Swag", it all starts with loving who you are. Accept yourself the way you are before making any changes. Yes, I know yesterday we talked about change but before the change can occur, it's important to accept the way you are now. Most people would disagree with me but this is my take on it, it's what works for me.

It took me a while to get to the place I am now, it took a few tears and all. Over the years, I looked at myself and thought I was "fat", yes we are talking about this. Initially, I used to wear a size M/L but in my mind, I was a 3X. It sounds ridiculous right? Proof? I went shopping with my aunt one time, I headed straight for the plus section, my aunt called me out and wondered what I was doing in that section and I told her I was looking for clothes. She laughed at me and told me I was in the wrong section. It's very difficult to make changes to things you don't accept; it requires mental adjustment to seeing what the mirror reflects and accepting it.

I can't stress this enough, accept yourself the way you are and love yourself for being who you are. If it means staring at yourself for hours till it sinks in, then do it. God makes no mistakes, so no, you're not a mistake. Stop the comparison syndrome, there's only one you and YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

:)

Change

Hello world :)

Yesterday I introduced my topic and all, so today we'll get started. Yeah! Let's talk about change today.

A few weeks ago, I decided to cut my hair. I had been talking about it for a long time but never actually got round to doing it. I had braids in, twists to be specific, anyone that knows anything about these kind of braids knows they look so good but so painful to get done. Anyway, the night before the big shave, I took out the braids and slept. That night, I had  a dream that I was contemplating shaving my head. When I woke, I got a scissors and cut it off.

Why did I explain the story behind shaving my head? I want you to understand something, I had thought about it a couple of times but I was to chicken to actually do it. Reason being, I thought I would look hideous and like a guy. Then I realized that wasn't a good excuse, so to get myself to shave it off, I cut it with a scissors which left me with no choice but to actually go to the salon and shave the rest of it.

After cutting it,I posted a pic on Facebook and one of my acquaintances said I looked like a little boy, others said I looked good.The good comments made me feel good and the ones I didn't want to hear made me feel like I made a mistake. There was no turning back so I had to adjust to seeing myself without hair and had to accept myself that way. Which was the real reason for doing so. For so long I felt like I was hiding behind something and not being true to myself, I needed to make a change and so I did.

I cut my hair because I wanted to see if I still looked beautiful, with or without my hair. I realized that,  my beauty isn't defined necessarily by my hair but by me. Hair just accentuates my face but my true beauty is on the inside, and so is yours. This was a big step for me, I'm still adjusting to it but I realized I'm more confident now.  There's nothing to hide behind anymore,  my face is out in the open now and hopefully my true beauty will shine through.

Cutting my hair was probably too drastic but if there's something you've been thinking about doing that you think will boost your confidence,  do it. It can be something you want to get rid of on your body or something you want to add on. The point of all this is to love your self, love your body. Not everyone will agree with it but it's time you did something for you and not mind what other people think. One my friends called me up yesterday and he laughed at my new cut and that made me feel... bad. Sound like a child huh lol it hurt me a little but I'm not here to please him or anyone else. Do this for you, stop waiting for the "perfect time" to make a change and just do it. 'Been there, done that, not going back' is better than,  'I wish I had done that.' Don't mind what others say, if it's negative talk that is, being afraid won't make people talk less. People are never satisfied anyway, do this for you.  "Those that mind don't matter, those that matter don't mind."

:)

Beauty Is Only Skin Deep

Hello World! :)

This is my very first Blog, isn't that exciting! I know it is :p For my very first blog, i wanted to address what my blogs will mostly be about, Beauty. Its mostly directed towards girls, women in general but men are more than welcome to join in. 

There are a number of topics out there that would be appropriate to talk about but i choose to focus on beauty because it is something that i am currently dealing with. You see, over the number of years that i have lived on this earth, beauty has been a confusing and yet daunting topic i can never seem to figure out. I decided on the title "Beauty Is Only Skin Deep" because it is. For most women accepting there beauty is usually a struggle and i can most definitely attest to that. I figured, if i'm still struggling with this topic, i bet i'm not the only. So why not share my journey with the world and hope my findings can help someone else. Plus it will probably make them feel less crazy, that happens a lot actually lol 

I hope you will join me on this journey to figure out what life and beauty is like. If you find my findings to be something you can relate to, please feel free to share the information with someone who needs to hear it. My goal is to help at least one person as i help myself. 

 :)