Heart to Heart

Hello World :) 

Today is a good day to make a turn around. In life, we wait for a certain thing to happen before we a can make a change. Eventful change is a good name to call it. Waiting for an event to occur that you believe will cause a ripple effect and lead to the rest of the parts of your life to follow through. I've waited forever for that to happen. Most times we wait for the new year, which is definitely a perfect way to do it but is it really? Are you going to keep letting yourself go through what you're going through until the first? Really bold you are. Change starts in the heart, decide in your heart and that will in turn convince your mind to follow. I'm no psychologist but i believe that's how it works, at least for me anyways. You can decide to make a change right now, but it keep in mind, it might be a difficult process but isn't everything?

Okay, so yesterday i had a heart to heart with a close friend and it opened my mind to the realization that, i am not alone and neither are you. Recently, i had been having these crazy thoughts and for some reason, i couldn't find the courage to share them with anyone because i figured they might look at me and go like " Whhatttttt?" So i decided to keep my thoughts to myself. Then yesterday, my friend came up to me and we just started talking about our current fears, hopes, and just generally everything that is going on in our lives and that's when it hit me, i'm not alone. For a while, it seemed like everyone had it all together and their lives were just peachy but when my friend and i sat down, i realised we had the same mixed emotions. It is true what they, "a problem shared, is a problem half solved." 

You maybe feeling a little lost right now and nothing maybe going right at all in your life but i want you to know, you're not alone. No matter how redundant this may sound, its really true. You have to make the first step and talk to someone about what you're going through, keeping the thoughts to yourself is no good way to live, trust me. Like me, the person you decide to share your thoughts to, might be going through or thinking the exact same things you are. Its very relieving to know that you're not the only person who thinks they're going insane or drained by life. You'll feel a lot better afterwards. Don't ignore the feelings and thoughts and tell yourself they'll go away, they won't. You're just saving them for a later date. Try it out, share  your thoughts and feelings, it is definitely relieving. (rhymed lol)

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL :)

Compromise

Hello world :)
How have you been the passed couple of weeks? All good I hope :D I know I know,  I've missed a couple of weeks but I'm here now! Hehe, I figured a good comeback would be talking about compromise.

Most of us are probably familiar with this word because even though we hate to admit it, we compromise alot. We convince ourselves that we'll only do it one time and from then on it turns out to be a habit. Compromise is basically settling, when you compromise, you settle or agree to something you don't want to do. Now, what does this have to do with beauty?

Being beautiful should always start from the inside and flow through to the outside. How you feel on the inside is a major contribution towards how your outward appearance will be portrayed.  

Beauty is all about accepting who you are and all that you are. That means flaws and all. Lately, there is this trend that has been going around which i'm not really feeling. Weight loss. There are a lot of people that i used to know back in the day that have lost so much weight its unbelievable. Girls are dropping dress sizes like its nothing. They look great and all but some are just so small its scary. Celebrities are obviously on this train too. I almost got on it as well, but that was until i realized i wouldn't be doing it for the right reasons.  I'd be doing it because everyone else is doing it. Compromising to the standards currently being set. Don't get me wrong, their is a lot of good in losing weight, you become healthy and all those good things. But what i'd hate for you to do, is fall into the trap of doing something that you didn't want to do but did anyway. Don't lose weight just because the rest of the world is doing it. You don't have to, you have a choice, do it if you know it will make you happy and more confident. Because if you decide to drop to a size 2, you will be the one looking at you in the mirror everyday.

I used to be smaller than i am right now. Everyone thought i was just the right size, i didn't think so. I didn't feel comfortable in that size, the strange thing was, i didn't really like my body. I knew the clothes that fit me wear a medium or large but my mind couldn't settle with those sizes. But after i gained a few pounds, i finally accepted my body. Most of the people thought i had become fat, and they stay think i am fat but that's them. I don't see myself as fat, i see myself as just the right size. I like me more now that i did back then. I've accepted that i'm a plus size. I'm not saying don't work out or eat and blow up, i'm saying if you think losing weight will make you love yourself, then do it! I've set a weight that i don't want to cross over and every time i see myself going out of control, i check my eating habits and cut down till i'm in the range i want. Its all up to you and how you want to feel about yourself. Stand your ground, you will not be swayed. Don't compromise. 

Love your body, love yourself. 

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL

:)