Who do you want to be?

Hello beautiful people,

It's Monday! And we're alive, that's always a good start to a day. A new week is always a good way to set new goals and catch up on previous ones. On a day such as this one, I did a lot of thinking. I've been asking myself this question for a couple of days now, who do I want to be?

People usually say "create yourself". To some extent, they maybe right. In order to create something, you have to imagine the possibility of it existing and the difference it'd make and most importantly it's purpose. We are all part of something grande, it goes beyond race, color, gender. It's about humanity.

Let me get back on track here, we deal with a lot of internal struggles when it comes to discovering why we're here. I've come to realize that the reason we go round and round this topic is because it's easier to live life with a reason. It's not about having a reason that everyone understands but one that you personally can connect with. It's a lot harder to decide who to be when it seems you're surrounded by so many great options and choosing just one makes it hard. Being anyone else but you is usually appealing because who would want to be you?

How many times have you wished to be someone else? Yes, we're doing this again. How many times have you wished to be someone else? Countless times? Sometimes it's not even that you hate yourself, it's that the person you want to has it all figured out and things just seem to flow. You, on the other hand, have a billion questions that need answering from identity to character to gifts and talents to purpose.

The road map is already within us, sounds a little cliché,  I know but it's the truth. God created us with a purpose in my mind. We weren't meant to struggle this much to discover who we are but after sin began its been really crazy. This is why "create yourself " isn't in part right. It's about knowing who made you.

God has the story written to your life, even you are a mystery to yourself. Have you ever surprised yourself? That's what I mean. You have a lot to learn about you and only God knows who you truly are. Not exactly what you're looking to hear huh? Well, such is life. We are unraveling. This is why getting to know God is key because the more you know about the creator, the better you're able to understand the creation. What God creates is an extension of Himself. You are an extention of God,  made in His likeness. To understand you, speak to God, converse deeply and read the manual of life. It's not do's and don'ts but a guide.

Remember that you're not alone on this journey, we are billions scattered around the world going through same things you are, take heart and pray.

You're one decision away from a totally different life.

No more hiding

Hello beautiful people,

It's dawned on me these passed couple of days how wonderful this world is and how beautiful it is to be present in it. It can be quite difficult to notice the beauty when you feel ugly. Insecurities, always hiding behind someone, never speaking up and believing that you're not good enough are enough reasons many of us are unhappy.

Every life has seasons, from a time of planting to reaping. I spent most of my years in one season because I was too afraid to step out and believe that anyone could listen to what I had to say. I had the nerve to doubt the people in my life thinking they stayed out of pity or obligation which led to building a wall to protect myself from the pain of this world. It's taken alot to get here and honestly, I'm not where I need to be but at least it's not where I used to be.

Listen, it's hard to step out and stand on your own, it's even crazier when majority of the people don't believe in your dreams. You are a beautiful person, you may have done somethings under pressure that you regret but that's all in the past. You don't have to hide behind people anymore. You're enough, you have everything that you need within you, you just have to believe in yourself. You don't have to borrow confidence or security anymore, you can be that on your own. It will feel a little weird and uncomfortable at first but don't run to what once was but forge ahead. You have the courage, power and heart to live the life you've envisioned, you just have to take the step.

The bravest thing you can do is walk away from what's hurting you. Once you've walked away, let faith in to be your friend. I believe in letting God write my story. My faith has helped me and staying true to my decision. Do not waver once you decide.

You're one decision away from a totally different life.

Passive living

Hello Beautiful people,

The Easter period is over and i hope that many of us had a lot of time to reflect on our lives and the importance and the magnitude of the sacrifice that God gave to save your life. With that being said, i find it pertinent that we talk about passive living.

It is possible to go your whole life barely awake. It is possible to just get by and not actively participate in the happenings of your life. I say this because i spent a little over a decade of my life asleep. I just let things flow, wherever the direction of the wind headed, i went with it. Passive living is not actively participating in the happenings of your life. I can tell you, decisions concerning my life were made by other people and I went with whatever decision they made. Its not difficult to live a passive life really. Getting to this place is most likely a traumatic experience or lack of meaning in life. Your life has meaning, you're not an accident or mistake. You can move from this kind of life to a different one. There is a way out of passive living.

It took me a while to wake up but it happened. It wasn't one of those "ahah" moment's but God gradually woke me up from this deep sleep. God brought someone into my life, after a series of dreams and interpretations, that finally led to my awakening. Being awake means you decide in which direction you want your life to go. You make the decisions and actively take responsibility for what you say and do. It started happening day by day until I became an active participant in my own life.

Our life is our story to the world and how it all ends is entirely upto you. The decisions we make, the choices are major factors in how your story unfolds. Letting God be a part of your life while be the greatest decision you ever make. We have the Holy Spirit to guide us and intercede on our behalf. We have a helping hand and a friend to see us through this process. You don't have to be afraid to live your life. I know sometimes its scary because you fear you'll make a bunch of wrong decisions which will mess up your life and the clean up is not particularly exciting. Being afraid of making mistakes is no way to live. You can't spend your whole life afraid, you will never be happy, you're probably unhappy right now. You must believe there is a way out of your slump, you must want something for your life. You must have dreams that you'd like to have fulfilled. The only way you can wake up is to let Jesus in, He will transform your life and you will never be the same again. It's not too late to change the direction of your life.

You are one decision away from a totally different life.

It is all temporary

Hello Beautiful people,

It has surely been a long day...so many things happen in a space of a second and much of which can change your life forever. Have you ever been, in a situation were the information you thought to be true actually turned out to be true? You had a clue to what was going on but you didn't want to believe it was the case and then it actually turns out to be the case and that just lives you frozen.

All moments in life are temporary, nothing in this life is permanent. Life itself is temporary but that does not mean we should use "YOLO" as an excuse to live a frivolous life. We are privileged to have this life and because it is time sensitive it is our responsibility to live our lives rightly and do something that actually matters. There is a good chance if you do something grande you will be awarded with either a Nobel prize or a statue but if you aren't awarded in that manner, live a mark on someones life that will light the candle in the next person.

Letting go of people, saying goodbye, living the past behind, walking away or whatever you want to call it should then be a lot easier once we realise that this life is short lived. Living a life that is full of happiness, accepting who we are, living our dreams and enjoying the journey is truly a big part of the beauty if life. You and I need to stop worrying and freaking out about how it all turns out and instead focus on God and letting Him lead the way. What better way to live than letting the creator of life take the lead in your on life?

Do you ever get scared of not waking up the next morning? Or maybe not doing all you set yourself upto do because you ran out of time? What's even more scary is dying alone, no wait, not being loved, that's worse. We have been lied too by society that we have to earn love, we have to be perfect to receive love and so many other lies. Funny thing is we've taken those lies to be truth. You don'tknow what you don't know. We have must not harden our hearts because this will keep us from progressing and honestly, it will make us miserable and unhappy and unsatisfied. Jesus Christ is real, His love is real, its never changing. You dont have to be perfect to recieve His love, He meets you right where you are, its all about surrender. My advice to you is, don't sweat the small stuff, realise you and i, will pass away. Love deeply and allow Jesus Christ to be at the center of your life.

You are beautiful.

Your life, your choice

Hello Beautiful people

Happy Easter Saturday! In the spirit of Easter, a friend of mine and I sat down to discuss how important Jesus Christ's death was and how important His resurrection is to us. You see, you don't have to have a relationship with him right now to believe that he died for you. Its in believing that we receive him and once you receive him, the relationship with him starts from there.

There is so much of life that we experience which has implications on our lives and our  choices. I have met people that were sexually abused and have chosen a life that is full of fear in connecting with other people. Our circumstances are very different, the choices we make in those circumstances sets course for how we respond to the rest of life. Its really hard to be positive when you have been handed negativity. Its hard to heal when you keep breaking. Its hard to be strong when you're feeding on weakness. We have no control over what happens to us but we do have control over how we respond.

When you examine your life today, how much of how you're living is in response to prevent something that happened years ago to you from happening again? Maybe you were bullied in school for being overweight so you respond by losing the weight and dressing in revealing clothes to show your body. To make a statement, to say what you couldn't back then but deep down you're still scared. Whatever your cause of pain may have been, you don't have to live your life from that perspective.

It takes a lot of courage to make the decision to change the course of your life. It takes a lot of sacrifice too. Speaking of sacrifice, it took a lot of love for you and me for Jesus to get himself crucified on that cross. It must have hurt His father to see His only son become sin and die in order for you and me to gain life. The life we sometimes take for granted. You see, Jesus was beaten, nailed to a cross to save your life. I know you think you don't deserve it because you're too messed up. The beauty with Jesus is, it's not about deserve, its about love. Everyday you wake up is a gift, not because you deserve it, because God just gives it.

You don't have to live your present life with your heart in the past. You don't have to live in fear, you don't have to be miserable, you don't have to live from a place of pain. You can be healed, you can let go of it all, you can let Jesus save you, you get to decide where you want to spend the rest of eternity. You're one decision away from a totally different life.

Happy Easter

You matter, Say it

Hello Beautiful people

This is just something to remind you that you matter. We all have lives, we all have something we're dreaming of, something we're working towards, something that we want to tell the world. If we didn't, none of the things we see would exist. Somewhere deep down inside we all want to make the world a better place or atleast we want to be in a world that is livable. We have families, work, health, relationships, religion and self to keep as busy. We have full plates and sometimes it seems 24 hours isn't a lot of time to fit everything in but we have to make it work.

In the busyness of life, it is easy to get burried in mandane routines that leave us feeling dead inside and empty. Its easy to get caught up in a whirlwind and forget how we ended up in the place we're in right now. Here's the thing, you and i only have a few hours to live on this earth. In these few hours, how much of it do you spend doing what you really love? Saying what's on your mind? Laughing as much as you complain? How much of this life have you actually lived?

We don't know when we die, we don't know what happens in the next hour, we can plan for it but we have no control over how it actually unfolds. Therefore, say what you have to say. I don't mean shouting at that person you've been holding a grudge for 15 years or 5 years, i mean, speak your dreams. Live your life with a voice, let your life do the talking. Your voice, your dreams, your ideas, your creativity is needed so don't hide in the shadows and wish away the hours hiding behind a desk when you know you can be speaking for the voiceless. You matter, what you have to say matters, don't stay quiet anymore, its time to clear your throat and let your voice be heard.

Gone are the days of self pity, get your act together and start afresh. Sure life sometimes throws lemons in our face and the lemonade we make out of those lemons is a little bitter but that should keep us going. You don't have to be afraid or ashamed of your story, you don't have to be timid. You are a wonderful human being. If you don't like somethings about yourself, change them, better yourself. Think of yourself as an investment, increase your value everyday and at the end of the day, the world will be surely glad you graced it with your presence.

Be you.

Reminisce

The dark, dreary, cold days are usually the loneliest. They're just those days you don't want to speak to anyone or see anyone. All you want is to lay in your bed and be quiet. After the silence, listen to some sad music as you watch the minutes turn to hours. It's on these gloomy days we must learn to be thankful.

Being gloomy is easy, anything in the negative is easy to come by, it takes no effort. Positivity on the other hand requires effort and attitude. Gloomy days can be turned to days of gratitude if you decide. Feelings are deceptive, they change so quickly with that being said, we need to learn to adjust them accordingly. When you wake up feeling gloomy, start to change your mood by thinking about all the wonderful things that have happened in your life.

I spent my day with a friend yesterday, we basically reminisced on the wonderful moments we've had in our lives. I for one have met wonderful people that have each played an important role in my life and am truly grateful for them. Now, these people may have ended up hurting me in the end but I choose to focus on the positive ways they impacted my life. The people in your life that have come by and left have impacted you in some way. You have made wonderful memories, shared unforgettable moments, moments that you only dreamt of and yet, that person made it a reality. Yes, now, you may not be in the best of places together, and that's fine because some people come in our lives for a season and that's okay.

Instead of being gloomy all day, cheer up and be grateful for the people that came and left in your life, the people that are still in your life, the blessings you currently have and the ones you're yet to have, most importantly, thank God for our life. Develop an attitude of gratitude and transform your life.